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jp4m2 · 11-26-2007, 10:56 AM

I think your first reaction was correct...

I know this is not the popular opinion, but I'm gong out on a limb here and I'm going to say it anyway because it involves a child...

I think over all your ex is probably a pretty good dad, but in saying that, he may be losing sight on what is important....Trinity did not ask for this situation nor did she get a vote in it.... I believe when she has something that is important to her he needs to move heaven and earth to be there for her.....to some of us an adults graduation would rank higher than a little girls gym competition, but I would wager a bet this is just as important to Trinity, and that's what matters....I'm sure the flowers are going to be nice, but a poor substitution for the real thing, her dad....if you ask her I would bet she would prefer looking out in that audience and seeing both her parents smiling faces.....

I think your ex should have reversed the situation, he should have come to Trinity's event first then went to the new wifes second. The new wife went in to this knowing the situation, she should have been the one to back him up by saying, "Go ahead hun, I understand completely, your little girl needs you."....Trinity should not have to compete with her for her dads time or attention. Even if this new wife thinks she is now the big kahuna, your ex's first priorities, obligations, commitments, and devotion, should go to Trinity....I don't believe it's fair or right to expect a little girl to have to understand, except, or process these kinds of disappointments when it's avoidable. The adults should have to make the all the sacrifices not her....

Sorry if this is off base but I get a little riled when kids are in the mix...just trying to give some other perspective

.....IMO....

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11-26-2007, 10:56 AM	#14
jp4m2 Love my Boys Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: w/ my boys Posts: 5,056	I think your first reaction was correct... I know this is not the popular opinion, but I'm gong out on a limb here and I'm going to say it anyway because it involves a child... I think over all your ex is probably a pretty good dad, but in saying that, he may be losing sight on what is important....Trinity did not ask for this situation nor did she get a vote in it.... I believe when she has something that is important to her he needs to move heaven and earth to be there for her.....to some of us an adults graduation would rank higher than a little girls gym competition, but I would wager a bet this is just as important to Trinity, and that's what matters....I'm sure the flowers are going to be nice, but a poor substitution for the real thing, her dad....if you ask her I would bet she would prefer looking out in that audience and seeing both her parents smiling faces..... I think your ex should have reversed the situation, he should have come to Trinity's event first then went to the new wifes second. The new wife went in to this knowing the situation, she should have been the one to back him up by saying, "Go ahead hun, I understand completely, your little girl needs you."....Trinity should not have to compete with her for her dads time or attention. Even if this new wife thinks she is now the big kahuna, your ex's first priorities, obligations, commitments, and devotion, should go to Trinity....I don't believe it's fair or right to expect a little girl to have to understand, except, or process these kinds of disappointments when it's avoidable. The adults should have to make the all the sacrifices not her.... Sorry if this is off base but I get a little riled when kids are in the mix...just trying to give some other perspective .....IMO.... `` __________________ B.J.mom to : Jake J.J. Jack & Joey, momma misses you..... The joy found in the companionship of a pet is a blessing not given to everyone. The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: me too..