I am so sorry you did not get this worked out so you could be together as a family, especially after so many years in the military have kept you separated. I know how difficult this must be to be seperated from your husband and girls.
I am not having the planned Thanksgiving day either - due to one person spoiling it for everyone else - I had intended to drive 14 hrs to be with my brother and sister-in-law and their 2 babies, including my 5 mth old niece, who I haven't even met yet. And they said my yorkies were welcome to come
Plus my parents would be there. But my daughter 18 yr old daughter has thrown a major fit, she thinks she is so independent after going off to college and refused to go. I couldn't leave her by herself for the holiday, nor could I drive it without her, so after a battle for 4 days we are staying home - and on top of that it's snowing buckets her today. We could have been somewhere much warmer.
It is too bad, when one person can spoil the family get together for everyone else.