I'm one of those wimps that tears up when I get mad, and then I get madder.
Actually, I don't get mad often, I'm usually - annoyingly to those around me - looking at the bright side.
But years ago, I discovered something that helped, and the family counseling agency where I worked actually used the idea. You know how you want to BREAK something (but don't want to break your stuff)? If you take a plastic ice cube tray and slam it on the counter, it sounds satisfyingly like breaking glass. When you feel better, a quick paper towel clean up, and you're a new person!!