i can't imagine what you are going through... but trust that your luck will change, i have tears in my eyes from reading the thread, our prayers are with you... Zoey knows that you loved her lots, and like someone said before me, she carries that with her, and as for your ex...he isn't worth your time hun, if he didn't stand by you at a time like this, you are way better off without him... i hope all the encouraging words and heartfelt sentiments from all YTers have helped you out... lots of hugs to you!!