Sounds like you're in over your head at the moment. Two things can happen - you can either make this work OR the situation just isn't right for your family at this particular moment. We can have the best intentions but not realize how it upsets the balance of the family. I would strongly suggest the belly bands for you - you can put a piece of a sanitary pad in them to absorb any pee BUT REMEMBER, it's potty training AS USUAL. A dog should ideally never pee in a belly band. In my opinion, they are more for the owner's stress level. You should potty train exactly as if they weren't wearing them. But you won't have that heightened stress of wondering when they're going to make a puddle or mark. And I think one thing you need to do, although very difficult, is stop comparing your new Yorkie to your Pom. The dogs are different, but you're different also. The situation has changed and you're approaching this with more stress than last time, if for no other reason, than the fact that there are two to care for now. Also, I'd limit their time together. The Yorkie may be getting overwhelmed with the Pom. He went from dominant litter mates to a dominant big brother. Give them little play times together and build up to free time together.
You've got some good instincts on the way you've picked up on his fear of getting enough food. You're treating him kindly when you hold and pet him. Build on those good things........... |