I am going to be 21 this December and I am married and do have a baby. I got married in August 2005 and we had our first child January 2007. I wouldn't change it for the world. Some days I wake up and just wanna scream. I don't wear make up as much as I use to, don't wear the nicest clothes, the house isn't spotless like it use to be, but it's how I've always planned life. I don't think our age is too young to be married if the right two people are. I've always been pretty mature for my age and so has my husband, but my brother, who is 18, won't get married for a loooooooong time. I think every person is different. I think I'm a pretty good mom to my son and I'm 20 and daily you read about 30 and 40 year olds abusing their children. Age isn't always the problem with todays divorce rates. I think many peoples morals have just went down the tube. You don't hear of families spending quality time like they use to. I think that is the problem, it causes a lack of communication.
You should never feel like you have to do anything because everyone else is. In my case I did the opposite. I got married young and none of my friends did. Some thought I was crazy and others knew it was just perfect for me. If you really aren't ready then I wouldn't. No need rushing into something you aren't going to like. Don't live your life regretting all the things you could of done. I didn't go to a 4 year college but my hubby did. He will graduate in May with a degree in Civil Engineering from the nations top engineering school. It was really tough for us. We might not always have the best of the best for our son but we always have plenty of something he needs most, and that's love. You will know when the timing is right for you. We did. I wish you the best in your decision.
