Personally, I think 21 is still so young! You have such much yet to learn and I'm happy to hear that you are not yet ready to have kids. So many young people jump into marriage and having kids and then look at the divorce rates. I also know how young people hate to hear that but most times it is true. My sister had 2 kids, one at 19, one at 21 and then divorced their dad when she was about 29. She then remarried and had another baby. She tries to tell her older kids that she just feels like a much better mom now than she was then. She was just too young. This is something that she never would have admitted even 10 years ago and certainly not when she was 19!. And having kids is such a huge commitment that you really have to want it with all your heart. If your boyfriend is pressuring you, he's not doing either of you any favors. Please don't compare yourself to those people who are 21 and married and starting families, you really don't know how many of them are going to wind up divorced and dealing with all the problems that brings. |