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Originally Posted by lkyorkies  I am about to tell you the worst thing I have done to my daughter...She had a BF...when they first starting dating I really liked him he was at our house all the time...then his parents bought him a motorcycle...She couldn't get him on the phone, he would say I will be there and wouldn't show up or call to let her know that he wasn't coming...(so, I got to hear her crying...worst thing ever as a parent)...When she finally would get him on the phone he would get crappie with her(tell her that he was with his friends to quit calling him, that he will call when they got finished)...piss me off as her Mom, he should treat my baby better and she would cry more...All summer she put up with him treating her like she wasn't important...that his bike and buddies were the greatest things...Anyway, I told her to take a break not to call him at all let him make all contact...for the first few days it was great he was calling, showing up on time, bringing her food at work, being sweet again...I had to be out of town for work and asked him to take ker to work for me, he said np he would be there and take her to eat before...He didn't show up or call...When she finally got him on the phone he said he forgot and was busy...she was late for work because she had to walk...I felt like crap because I wasn't even in the state to be able to help her...I called him and told him to stay away from my daughter to loose her number and to forget where she lives. He has not tried to make contact with her since...She was mad at me at first but, now she says that if he really wanted to be with her he would not have listened to me...he didn't the other 20 times I told him that...I guess my best advice is to let him make all contact, do not call him, no email...hang out with your friends and just be a teenager...you will find the right one and if he is it he will be there in the end. Good luck. |
You are such a good mom for doing that! I'm sure she appreciates it now. That's true that they become very interested in you again when you cut all ties with them. My ex boyfriend, the guy i was with before my bf now, he would hang out with his friends a lot, well not a lot but every weekend. I would see him a couple times a week, usually by going to his house or him coming to mine since we live 20 blocks from each other. It was to the point that i dreaded for the weekends to come cause i knew at a certain time i had to leave him and do my own thing, even tho sometimes i hung out with him and his friends. I didn't even settle for that. I broke things off with him when i went off to college but we still continued to hang out when i would visit and still talked. I guess we were still 'something'. Anyway i got tired of him and the fact that he wasn't treating me the way i wanted him to, sure he was nice, a good person but he wasn't really romantic, was kinda cheap and prefered his friends on weekends. UGH So I was at college with my now boyfriend, we also went to HS together and soon we became an item. I dropped things with my ex for good and he was all crying to me, telling me he loves me, and this went on for months not just days. He would call nonstop, ask me to hang out all the time, he made the time even if he couldn't and i really felt bad. Everytime i saw him he looked pathetic, he just couldn't believe we were actually over. Anyway after months of talking to him, trying to let him off easy he finally accepted it and i no longer talk to him cause my bf doesn't want me to. I have spoken to him on few occasions but nothing serious, just 'how are you', etc..my point is it is true that guys are weird and complicated. They like you the best when you ignore them, it's so annoying. Anyway now i am completely happy and satisfied with my current bf. He is my best friend, is definetly not cheap like my ex, always buying me food, flowers for no reason at all, if we argue he says sorry even if he doesn't know what he did lol and tries to make things better and make me happy again. He hates seeing me sad and loves the dogs so much. He is truly a great guy and im so happy i met him. Sometimes it takes broken hearts to find your one true love, sometimes it is the 1st person you fall in love with you end up mayying, it is different for everyone. Ok im done, wow my post was long lol srry