wow...i just caught up on this thread. it got busy fast
i'm so sorry you are dealing with this. guys are jerks! bottom line LOL
i'm not one to give advice...I settled. I found a guy that would call me ALL THE TIME, buy me flowers ALL THE TIME, want to be with me ALL THE TIME, and since I was sick of guys that never did those things and showed no care for me, I married the first one that came along and did those things. I knew he would always be faithful to me, and that he would do anything in the world for me...so when he asked me to marry him, 6 months into the relationship, I married him. and I think you have heard plenty of my "venting" about him.
all i'm saying is....don't settle. but also, don't expect perfection from anyone. The most important thing is LOVE. you have to really really love the person, or it is almost impossible to make a relationship last. you have to feel good when you are around them. and it has to go both ways. I used to have that...but let it go when I got impatient and thought we would never get married. Now I cant' get it back, and I rushed off and got married out of spite and desperation.
Just don't do what I did...If you have that love, don't let it go. but if you don't...then keep looking until you find it. don't marry just because you think it's the right thing to do...do it because you have that deep true love.
and trust me....there is PLENTY of time to find it, if Josh is not that person.
Breaking up is soooooooo hard to do. it hurts, really bad. but you get past it. you grow stronger because of it. and once you have been apart for a little while, you realize all the things you did and didn't like about the relationship and you set out to make sure the next one is that much better. so if you guys don't make it...it's not the end of the world, it is a life lesson that is priceless and you will be better for it.
ok...my advice stinks...i get emotional about this stuff since I'm in the middle of a HUGE mistake and hate to see anyone else go through it. I can't tell you if he is right or wrong for you...but maybe I can give some insight as to what to look for?? i don't know...good luck hun. I hope things work out soon. you deserve to be happy
