You're not a bad mom. You're a mom who's decided to take a stance to make your kids grow into responsible adults. Believe me if I had it to do over again I'd do the same things. My kid 17 and 21 think the world owes them a living. They can't comprehend the concept of getting a job, and being responsible adults, and I feel like it's my fault for not making them tow the rope when I could have. Now I have signs all over the house. For example dirty bathroom = no computer. The bathroom has been cleaned ever since. We're suppose to have a family meeting to discuss chores and who's responsible for them. I've been a slacker for too long, and I can't take it anymore, so keep on top of them whether they whine or not. It'll pay off in the end.
__________________  Susan, Piper ,Harley & Suiki |