I think all kids should have chores to do-starting at 18-24 months of age. The chores as tots are obviously very small, like putting blocks in a bin, putting other toys away, stacking books, etc.
I was a nanny for a few years...I would have the 3 & 4 year olds help empty the dishwasher by putting tupperware away in the bottom cupboard, or putting away silverware (no knives, of course), but it's like a matching game for them-spoons/forks/butter knives! They can also help by matching socks, folding washcloths, and putting laundry like socks and undies away in drawers.
Once the kids know this is simply
expected of them and that it's not up for debate, everyone is happier, and the chores just get done!
But, I know how difficult teen girls can be-I was awful at that age
I know it gets better with time and lots of patience!