[jp4m2]

I certainly would not want my husbands ex's hanging out with us.....
It would be very clear to me... as far as I'm concerned, as long as one partner is in contact with a past relationship, the word "past" no longer applies, therefore it's a problem...
Having my husband hanging out with an ex or a person of the opposite sex on a regular basis. It would have nothing to do with being insecure, I would find it cruel, disrespectful, and could be destructive to our relationship, it would allow the possibility for rekindling old feelings and cause suspicions to creep in.
I would never invite my old boyfriends over and expect my husband to hang out with them. If it would cause my husband pain, hurt or unease then our relationship would be top priority, no question about it, the ex goes. Nothing good can come out of this. She's an ex for a reason.
Her childish and immature behavior would not be an issue because she wouldn't be back....the friend would have to come alone or with a new GF...
Making excuses or trying to convince yourself that your the bad guy here if you don't welcome this women into your home with open arms is uncalled for. What your feeling is very reasonable and understandable. This is just going to get bigger and uglier..I hope you get this resolved soon for your relationships sake....



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