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Originally Posted by adorame  My oldest son will be 14 October 25. He has liked this girl sense March. She has come over to our house a few times and they sat out on the porch talking, we have meet her parents all that stuff. Well he wants to take her to the movies and ask her to be his girlfriend  I don't know if I am ready for this. My husband is fine with this but I just don't know! My mom was strict and we did not have dates and that till we were 16!! My friends were a lot younger then me when they started to date so is 14 too young? I also do not want his grades to drop he's an A student with a 4.0 grade point right now! |
Honestly I think 16 is a good age. I have three children and this discussion has come up with Hubby. Although there is no good age really but I think 16 is a more mature age and you have to be able to show that maturity. Mommy shouldn't have to pay for dates. I think that kids have so much pressure towards growing up and sex that it's best if we can delay them a bit. I personally feel if they start too early the other things we want to avoid will start earlier as well. I have seen it happen with my now 15 year old nephew. My ex-sil thought it was cute to say he had a girlfriend when he was like 11 or so and set him and the little girl up for a little date at the movies...well it just went on from there. At 13 he engaged in some sort of sexual activity with a little friend of his (found out by reading a blog he had created)..that only peaked his curiosity more. So on it went from there. I know now at 15 he has indeed had sex and seems to be very itchy for more. Kids really are dumb (I keep tabs on him through his myspace page) and they put their business out there. I am scared because these kids are growing up way toooo fast. I click on the pages of some of his friends....lemme tell you these girls are hot in the pants these days. God help us all.
Good luck in deciding. I personally vote for them waiting until they are 16. I think it's awesome that he feels that he can talk to you. It's very hard because you dont' want them sneaking around and it's absolutely awesome that he is comfy talking to you.