So this is a thread that actually made me cry…
Two weeks ago I probably would have picked my ex and gushed about him no matter how bad he treated me. Then I realized for the past 4 years I have devoted my whole life to that person often at the expense of not being there for others I care about, and to some extent ruining other relationships…So then I got to thinking about who no matter how ridiculous I have been has always stuck by me…MY BEST FRIEND JILL…We first met living next to one another in our college dorms and have now been friends for 8 years (3 of which we lived together). There are so many reasons I love Jill and admire her so I will try to pick just a sampling of the best.
She has always stuck by me no matter what. No matter how ridiculous I have been, how selfish, how out of sorts, or stupid, Jill has always been in my corner. Through the bad relationship with the ex, through law school, etc. She has always made it a point to attend every event that I have had that is important to me. She even sat out in the hot sun at all day for my law school graduation and made sure I got some of the loudest cheers when I walked across the stage. When I was studying for my bar exam she made sure to check on me and offer me snacks and reprieves.
She never holds grudges. We have had huge blow outs (mainly when we were roommates) and always been able to talk about them the next day without damaging our friendship. Even though I can be pretty temperamental about things.
She never speaks negatively about anyone only things that people do. I wish I had her ability to be this way and be so understanding.
She always knows just the right thing to say or suggest to cheer a person up. If you need to complain she will complain (somehow without being too negative right there with you), if you need a fun night out she is there to plan it. Somehow being around her always lifts you up.
She is one of the strongest people I know. In the past year she has lost relatives, lost a long term live in relationship, and been seriously ill. She rarely complained, and always had the attitude “if there are things about my life I do not like I am the only one who can change them, so I better get a move on.”
Boy, I haven’t even tipped the ice berg. I just really think it is about time I start letting some of the people I care about know how much I appreciate them. Thanks for the thread. |