[vainchick5]

Originally Posted by FirstYorkie

I expect that you are able to sleep through Tbone's whining alot better than your BF.

I am not condoning what your BF has done. However, rescuing a dog who is barking or whining is also sending inconsistent messages. Tbone has learned that whining will - eventually - get him taken out of the crate. AND, on rare occasions, after a little torment from BF, it gets him taken into bed by you.

This isn't what you want Tbone to learn.

How to resolve this? I think you and BF have to get very clear together on where you want Tbone to sleep and how you are going to respond to his whining. If you have had Tbone for 2 years, he is not a puppy. There is no reason why he has to go to the bathroom after only an hour in his crate. While BF's behavior is too harsh, I'd say "Girlfriend, YOU gotta toughen up!".

If it were me and I was determined to make the dogs sleep in crates, I'd move the dogs' crates out of your bedroom. I'd put them as far away from your bedroom as possible. I would shut the door to their room and the door to your room. Then, I'd turn on a fan in your room to help drown out Tbone's whining. If Tbone responds like Joey (and most 2 year olds), he will cry most of the night for the first night. IF YOU DON"T RESCUE HIM, he will cry alot less the second night and by the third night, IF YOU DON"T RESCUE HIM, he probably won't make a sound.

However, all of that is only if what you REALLY want is for the dogs to sleep in their crates. If that isn't what you REALLY want, what I've said is too harsh.

I completely agree. Great advice!