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Potter · 09-05-2007, 01:09 PM

This conversation actually happened 2 days ago but I am still not able to get it off my mind. I am fine when I don't think about it but when I do it just don't feel good in the heart

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Hubby & I is moving out by the end of this month to my in-law's-basement until we have another place to call our own. My MIL is okay with Siu Pao now but not my FIL. Two days ago, he said to me that there are rules in the house of which the first thing is, Siu Pao is not allowed to go to the main floor AT ALL and is confined to the basement which I don't agree to and never will so we reached a consensus of he will be in the main floor when I am there and I will bring him down with me when I go to the basement which I plan on doing anyways because I like to keep him close to me but I really don't want to leave him in the basement when I am out because he will cry-he has separation anxiety. Second, he said Siu Pao has to be bath more often because he smells

I bath him once a week and wipe him when I need to and I don't think bathing him twice a week would be the best unless he was playing in mud and is all dirty. I just have a feeling he is gonna pick things because he doesn't like Siu Pao.

The next thing, totally unrelated to Siu Pao was "Don't expect your MIL to do EVERYTHING"...I was like

So far every time I was there, I have helped out with house chores on top of my own stress of moving, trying to find a new place, cleaning the basement, keeping Siu Pao away from my FIL. The only one who doesn't help out in the house is himself (and he is retired). I really don't know if it was my MIL who complained or he is the culprit himself but it just isn't fair because so far, we don't even dare to ask much from her to help except for puppy sitting for Siu Pao when I am away which we paid her back. I would have sent him to a puppy sitter if she said no. We gave her a choice. I don't know...maybe I still don't really feel like I am part of their family? I also feel that hubby as the eldest, gets a different treatment compared to his 2 younger brothers who are still staying at home which I really feel so sorry for him and it hurt me. I think the way he cope with it was just to not deal with it and seldom open up to his parents. He is to the point of not doing very much because they won't appreciate it as much as compared to his brothers simply because the expectations on him are much higher.

After babbling, I am not sure what I want out of posting this...any feedbacks will be appreciated. While I understand some people just do not like dogs, do they have to hate them?

09-05-2007, 01:09 PM	#1
Potter YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 2,583	FIL & my Yorkie boy This conversation actually happened 2 days ago but I am still not able to get it off my mind. I am fine when I don't think about it but when I do it just don't feel good in the heart . Hubby & I is moving out by the end of this month to my in-law's-basement until we have another place to call our own. My MIL is okay with Siu Pao now but not my FIL. Two days ago, he said to me that there are rules in the house of which the first thing is, Siu Pao is not allowed to go to the main floor AT ALL and is confined to the basement which I don't agree to and never will so we reached a consensus of he will be in the main floor when I am there and I will bring him down with me when I go to the basement which I plan on doing anyways because I like to keep him close to me but I really don't want to leave him in the basement when I am out because he will cry-he has separation anxiety. Second, he said Siu Pao has to be bath more often because he smells I bath him once a week and wipe him when I need to and I don't think bathing him twice a week would be the best unless he was playing in mud and is all dirty. I just have a feeling he is gonna pick things because he doesn't like Siu Pao. The next thing, totally unrelated to Siu Pao was "Don't expect your MIL to do EVERYTHING"...I was like So far every time I was there, I have helped out with house chores on top of my own stress of moving, trying to find a new place, cleaning the basement, keeping Siu Pao away from my FIL. The only one who doesn't help out in the house is himself (and he is retired). I really don't know if it was my MIL who complained or he is the culprit himself but it just isn't fair because so far, we don't even dare to ask much from her to help except for puppy sitting for Siu Pao when I am away which we paid her back. I would have sent him to a puppy sitter if she said no. We gave her a choice. I don't know...maybe I still don't really feel like I am part of their family? I also feel that hubby as the eldest, gets a different treatment compared to his 2 younger brothers who are still staying at home which I really feel so sorry for him and it hurt me. I think the way he cope with it was just to not deal with it and seldom open up to his parents. He is to the point of not doing very much because they won't appreciate it as much as compared to his brothers simply because the expectations on him are much higher. After babbling, I am not sure what I want out of posting this...any feedbacks will be appreciated. While I understand some people just do not like dogs, do they have to hate them? __________________ http://www.dogster.com/pet_page.php?j=t&i=410379 "No matter how little money and how few possesions you own, having a dog makes you rich." Last edited by Potter; 09-05-2007 at 01:13 PM.