The best rubber bands that don't do so much damage to the hair are the ones from the dentist that they use on braces. That's where I get mine. You also should never pull the rubber band out of the hair. Use a tiny pair of scissors being very careful not to cut the hair. Along with useing the bands, you can use a gel. #1 All Systems has an Invisible Hold gel for this very purpose. I love their line of products!!
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