I understand how you feel and what you're going through. I haven't had Kalina spayed yet and don't really know what is the best age to do it - I think I'm in denial. On the other hand, I don't want her to have her first heat either. I just can't stand the thought of her having surgery and being away from me all day and feeling awful. It's something I need to think about but I'm not ready yet. Good luck to you with your little one and let us know.