Deb,
I'm so sorry so much terrible stuff has happened for you.
Hopefully, that is all over now.
I certainly can relate about hating driving. I was in a car accident in 1997, and it took me several years to get over the PTSS. For a long time, I was afraid to drive on the freeway--which is strange because my accident was on the regular roads. It took my going back to school to get my BA degree, and having to drive 35 miles each way several days a week to get over my fear. Though I'm still a bad passenger--bad back seat driver with the invisible brake!