[LoveMyGirlz]

Awww you can't hate the baby! The best thing you can do is be that childs friend and be someone he/she will look up to. It will be hard for you if the mother is spiteful and hates you...but you never know-you may be with your man 15 years from now!
I met my stepson when he was 2....I tried to be his friend but his mother and her family were nasty and told him lies about me and well...just confused the poor kid so that he felt like he had to ignore me whenever his mom was around. He is 15 yrs old now and we are still together! His mother eventually remarried and is happy now and cant understand why the son and I ever had this "gap" between us! She's not the sharpest knife in the drawer
Anyway, make the childs visits enjoyable, so that he wants to come over....cause this will make a huge difference when he's older and can choose where he wants to spend his time for himself....Trust me, making yourself so likeable is the BEST way to get at the mother (is she is nasty and vengeful!)! Make it so that there is nothing the mother can do or say about you to change the way the kid feels about you!