Originally Posted by aarnold808  I had a feeling this thread would not fail for providing at least some interesting thoughts and strong opinions. Afterall, it concerns the two things that most people on this board consider near and dear to them: children, and yorkies.
And while I tried to refrain from inserting my two cents, I just will only say this: the one thing I learned from this board is that this is one filled with many different opinions. I can totally understand that. I, am like the original poster, in that I do treat Teddy like a child. He's my baby. I don't need anything. However, I can understand many people hear being bothered by what the OP said. Even though the comments she made are only being directed toward "some" mothers it is too clear why "all" mothers might find offense with this.
But I'm sure we are all guilty of seeing children who are misbehaving and wondering why exactly those parents cannot calm down their child, and I'm sure most breathe a sigh of relief when they look at their own children and say, "thank goodness, my child is not like that." I'm sure everyone has done that. I think that is the sentiment that the original poster has tried to capture. However, she failed to do so, by making somewhat mean spirited comments toward "Some" kids in general.
I can say that my Teddy can act out sometimes when he sees a dog, and can bark a little more than I would like. And I know that some people will look at me, and wonder why can't I control my dog. Does that mean, I cannot bring Teddy out because some people are bothered with his demeanor? No. It means, that sometimes people will be annoyed by him. But some people's expectations are higher than others.
To the original poster: what I think bothered most about this thread is not what you said, but the meaning and the intent with which you said it. I don't see myself having children in the near future (with a career in law it would be hard too) but it was just how you phrased your words and sentences, that just seemed to border slightly on being just a bit too judgemental and mean. I can't quite put my finger on it, but even I felt a little "chill" when reading your post. However, this is YT, and people are allowed to post whatever they feel, I should know. I just think sometimes, people forget that even though conversations are through an internet connection, doesn't mean people can't take offense to it.
Not being a mother, but being close to my own, I can totally understand why some mothers on this board got upset. They are entitled to their feelings, as well as you are theirs. I think sometimes, people need to step outside of the box they are in, and try putting their feet in someone else's shoes. Maybe this way, comments, such as the ones in this thread can be avoided.
Too long. Sorry. Just my two cents. |