Girl your not alone, it happens to all of us...your in your twenties and trying to find yourself, your 30's your trying to get on your feet, then 40 hits and life finally looks great, you know where you going and your pretty secure and then menopause hits and your a basket case...It sucks, but you have to shake it off, and you might want to call your doctor for some hormone pills...Hang in there girl, it will get better...