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zatorskijoan · 08-20-2007, 01:26 AM

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Although this is a subject rarely brought up for discussion online and even less frequently in person, I have found that as couples age and start to confront more health problems, the number of those sleeping in separate beds or bedrooms increases. In all the cases I know of, the reason for sleeping separately had to do with various health problems keeping one of the spouses awake and the activity of the one then disturbed the quality of sleep for the other. Of the six couples I know who do this, NONE did it because their pets were disturbing them.
If you and your husband require separate rooms in which to sleep, for whatever reason, that is your own personal business and there should be NO concern about what others may think of it! As long as this is something the two of you discussed openly and honestly together, stop stressing about it! Absolutely encourage your husband to "move into" the "guest room" and stop sleeping on the sofa! That must be so uncomfortable for him! Why not offer to help him decorate "his" special space to help assure him that you're concerned about his sleep needs, that you want to support him and that you're not resentful or hurt by his need to change the marital sleeping arrangement?
Just in case there might be some lingering concerns about this issue, why not plan on a surprise for him when his room is completed? You could pack a picnic basket with champagne, candles, "mood music", and a bottle of massage oil and have an AFTERNOON "picnic" in the privacy of the new room, to "christen" his new bed! A little "afternoon delight" should take away any concerns either of you have regarding this issue!!
Go for it and stop worrying!!

08-20-2007, 01:26 AM	#38
zatorskijoan No Longer a Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Tucson, AZ Posts: 15	A question for Married People [F][/FONT] Although this is a subject rarely brought up for discussion online and even less frequently in person, I have found that as couples age and start to confront more health problems, the number of those sleeping in separate beds or bedrooms increases. In all the cases I know of, the reason for sleeping separately had to do with various health problems keeping one of the spouses awake and the activity of the one then disturbed the quality of sleep for the other. Of the six couples I know who do this, NONE did it because their pets were disturbing them. If you and your husband require separate rooms in which to sleep, for whatever reason, that is your own personal business and there should be NO concern about what others may think of it! As long as this is something the two of you discussed openly and honestly together, stop stressing about it! Absolutely encourage your husband to "move into" the "guest room" and stop sleeping on the sofa! That must be so uncomfortable for him! Why not offer to help him decorate "his" special space to help assure him that you're concerned about his sleep needs, that you want to support him and that you're not resentful or hurt by his need to change the marital sleeping arrangement? Just in case there might be some lingering concerns about this issue, why not plan on a surprise for him when his room is completed? You could pack a picnic basket with champagne, candles, "mood music", and a bottle of massage oil and have an AFTERNOON "picnic" in the privacy of the new room, to "christen" his new bed! A little "afternoon delight" should take away any concerns either of you have regarding this issue!! Go for it and stop worrying!!