The big question is why do you find it acceptable to be treated this way and why do you keep thinking that things are going to be different? I can tell you that you deserve better but until you believe it deep down, it doesn't really matter what I say. You do deserve better but until you figure out why you do this to yourself, you are going to keep accepting things in a relationship that really are totally unacceptable. But I certainly would not encourage you to take his phone call the next time he calls, 4 years is one thing but can you imagine spending the rest of your life that way? |