Wow....is this MY exbf Brian
? Maybe it's something about the name
.
I say he's either gay or just a sociopath; there's lots of people out there like that, but most people they're involved with won't put up with it for as long as you have. Which is probably why he keeps coming back to YOU. I know you didnt' ask for advice, but I'm still going to tell you to DUMP HIS SORRY A$$!!!! Kick him to the curb NOW! He doesn't deserve you and just be happy that you didnt' move to where he is, or worse yet, MARRY the jerk! I wish I'd listened to my friends when I was with my Brian; it took me 2 yrs to get over him. Because they seem like they're just the PERFECT man for you is why you put up with it...you see the good things about him and the things you've got in common and the things that you are passionate about, and you dismiss the bad things. But the bad things are what make you feel bad and end up making you feel like YOU'RE the one with the problem. Your only problem is that he's WORKING it and USING you. Once you've been away from him for awhile, you'll be able to see much more clearly and objectively that he was treating you HORRIBLY and you don't deserve it. You're much better than he is. I feel so badly for you, b/c I've been there too....you just have to believe that you're wayyyy too good for him and you only deserve the very BEST...and he ain't it! Good luck, sweetie; I know it's not easy. So much easier to give advice....hope you get to the point that this is all a past error in judgment for you.