i do agree that you need to ask the bride what SHE wants. and you know, you're already so frustrated, you should do it in front of the rest of the girls.
say, "We all have different opinions on what you want, so i just want to hear it from you! this is your wedding." yes, you might be putting her on the spot, but if everyone is around then it becomes LAW!
the only thing about the shoes i can think of would be standing pictures!! and if you are on the beach or grass. you mentioned the gowns are FLOOR LENGth, so the shoes won't even be visible...
good luck and paitience!!
tina |