My daughter is getting married next sat the 25th, Its not a real big wedding, but i think sometime people are selfish, we have had a few ups and downs, but for the most part everyone has gotten along quite well, I want to wish you the best, beleive me i know how stressed you can get, as far as shoes goes, my daughter let her girls wear what they wanted, some like flats others wanted heels, I hope everything goes well for you

sounds like you are the bigger person and that shows great respect for you