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Use terms like you would say to her if she was being punished. Like Grandma did something bad and she is being punished for it, like when you do something bad and I make you sit in the time out chair. When you are 9 Grandma can start going shopping with us and come visit us!

Good Luck, I can just imagine how hard it will be. But it is better to tell her while she is young.

Before my husband and I got married we decided that we wanted to start a family, we waited for his ex wife to sign the divorce papers, but she kept putting them off, so we decided to try and get pregnant before he was actually divorced. (took over 2 years) Well I got married on June 14th and my son came into the world on July 5th. (my husbands ex-wife always told me that she would not sign the divorce papers, because she wanted my child to be born a bastard!) oh by the way she was the one who actually started the divorce plans, as she was having an affair. Well back to the point! I always told my son that he was planned and not an accident, that we loved him from the very moment we knew I was pregnant. He is 22 years old and only once has he ever brought it up that I was pregnant before I was married and all he want to know was WHY! And then I told him the story. I think it was a good decision and if given the chance to do it different I wouldn't.

Once again, good luck, and honesty is the best policy.