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Originally Posted by TammyJM  Oh my gosh...you have described every single feeling that I have on a daily basis!!!!!!! If I have a migraine or a bad headache that is going into one, I like to go lay in the tub. The problem with this is then my children come and sit next to the tub and either want to talk or sing to me or rub soap in my hair, which then gets in my eyes and then my son starts sticking his arm in the water. He will then start crying because his sleeve and arm are all wet or he will start throwing all of his bath toys in with me (because who wouldn't want a rubber ducky and a sailboat and 50 other bath toys in the tub during a bath?!). I then try to expain to him that mommys don't need toys and then since I don't want the toys, he thinks that, Hey! It's fun to splash in the tub so I bet mommy would like for me to splash her!! Long story short, a relaxing bath is never that!!! My husband will sometimes notice what they are doing and make them stop but then not remove them from outside of the bathroom door where they are both then crying because they can't be in with mommy. I will then decide that the bath no longer sounds so great and get out....my husband ALWAYS have a stunned look on his face as he is asking me, "Why did you get out so soon?" 
Honestly, when I tell my husband how stressed I am and that I need a vacation, he acts like I am crazy. He truly thinks that this is an easy job.  |
MY daughter is on baby #4 ( due Oct.) the last one is 8 months old now, she calls and tells things like this...she is snippy and the father says, "What's wrong w/ you." She informs him, "I haven't had a shower in 3 days can't you smell me!"
... not having a shower will make any one cranky....he says,"Well why not, you should go take one."...she is standing there w/ the baby on her hip and smoke starts pouring from her ears at his response....NO CLUE!....Sometimes you just have tell your husband in a calm but serious voice, "I'm going to take a bath, I'll be about 30 minutes, these kids will be your til I come out, I don't want to be disturbed."..go in, shut that bathroom door, LOCK it, turn on a radio, and sink in....DON"T feel guilty if they cry,and they will, dads out there and they all will be fine....some times moms have to develop what my daughter and I call, "tune out ears"...it allows you to only hear what's important and what is just unnecessary whining.... ours are so well developed now that sometimes our men are talking to us for a few minutes, they leave the room and we think to ourselves, "What did he say?" and we couldn't even tell you what they said....your kids are going to cry sometimes, you just have to let them, they can't and wont always get what they want... If they have something that will hurt them and you remove it, they cry, if you put them down for a nap, they cry.... don't feel like a bad mom, they cry....On baby number one and a little of baby number two my daughter ALWAYS felt bad if the children cried.... my daughter used to say she felt like a "mean" mom if she didn't cater to her kids so she would put her needs last, but there has to be "time out" for mom or you'll burn out....after three kids she no longer feels guilty for saying "no", it's trying to find the time to get it all done....now, if there where 30 hours in a day she might get it all done
....your going to love school when they start, hang in there....
