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Originally Posted by Tillys_mom  I need some good advice here. My husband and I have been having some problems here lately, all due to the same problem. His family and I haven't gotten along for quite some time now. It all started in 2005 when she got mad because I didn't go to hubbys cousins b-day party the day after my great grandmas funeral. Now hubby and I have baby, which is the highlight of my days. Since we had my son things have just gotten worse with his family and I. They exclude me most times and the past few times we have visited they say mean things about my son, such as, "he has big ears", "he has a big round head", "he is bald". Stuff like that. His aunt also said he was going to be a hethan (sp) when he grows up, and this was the first time she laid eyes on him.
Hubby and I had a talk and I told him how much things were bothering me. They have caused a lot of emotional pain and since these issues have occured I have had a lot of mental and physical health issues. Hubby simply stated he would talk with them. So he calls them and tells them it bothered us and she asks me if I go to a counselor if it would help me. That was with her apology. Hubby thinks that is being sincere.  I tell him I think it's best not to go around them for awhile, he said that is asking to much. We just keep fighting the same argument. I want nothing to do with them and he thinks they are God's model parents. I feel this is never going to change. What would you do in this situation? I guess I just need advice and someone to talk to.  |
Ok I am fuming for your sake. I want to go there and bitch slap that aunt that said that nonsense. God help her for putting such ugliness on a small child.
In-law relations can be very tedious. I think that it was rediculous of them to feel slighted because you didn't attend that birthday party. Like hello a family member just died.
My mom had issues with my grandmother (dad's mom) and that side of the family. See they wanted my dad to marry asian and he sure didn't. Anyhow there was always snide remarks and stuff thrown at my mom as well. Finally she had had enough and told my dad it was enough. She told him seeing as they dont' care for me I will take you to their functions (dad didn't drive and take the kids as well) and then go back home and come get you when it was done. I personally don't blame her one bit. That was how my mom kept her sanity. It's a hard thing to put hubby on the spot to defend his family...because you are all his family. It really disgusts me to hear how they treat the baby who is the son of their son.
Honestly dont' tell him anything more negative about them. If I were you I would just not go. He would be welcome to go if he wanted but he wouldn't be taking my son. No matter what you do in this situation your name will be mud. My cousin's wife is in this situation with my aunt. No matter what happens it's always Ruth's fault..even when it's clearly evident that it's Gary's fault. My aunt just never liked her because my cousin was/is a mammas boy and his wife is a strong woman and refused to let my aunt run all over her and her life. She has employed the same tactic that my mom used. While it's not the best thing because being a united family is better it will give you a piece of mind.