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jvwheeler · 07-19-2007, 06:19 PM

Hi! I need advice. As many of you know I am wrapping up some time in Iraq and will return home next Wednesday (Yeah!). One month ago, prior to a trip to Florida to see some old friends and spend time with her father, my wonderful, intelligent, beautiful 15 year old daughter said "Mom, speaking of Florida, I would like to get something pierced." And I said "What?" Thinking the outside of her ear okay, eyebrow no, belly button maybe. She says "Tongue" and I said "ABSOLUTELY NOT, I FORBID IT" I did tell her that she is too young, it is too dangerous, and that I have spent $4K out of my pocket on braces and teeth.

She is a spoiled child. She gets most everything she wants. We talk, and we usually have a great relationship. She knows she is spoiled and thus far hasn't taken advantage of it.

WELL--she did it anyway. She doesn't know that I know, but she won't be able to hide it when we are on the same continent.

I know that YT is a diverse group of people and many of you probably have some experience in this realm (I don't, the military completely frowns on it, and since it has only come in fashion since I have been in...)

By reading on the Internet, it appears it takes 3 - 4 weeks for it to completely heal. Is this true?

I was very, very angry when I first found out. I wanted to go home tear it out of her mouth and take away everything that is not part of the parental contract. No cell, no Internet, no riding lessons, tv--leave her with food, clothes and shelter.

But I have calmed down a bit. Only a bit. So with this diverse group, tell me what you think.

When I see it (which shouldn't take long), explain to her how disappointed I am that she went against my wishes. Allow her to leave the piercing in for one month from the date of inception, to allow it to heal. Then she can not wear a piercing until she is no longer living in my house. Take away cell and internet privileges for one month. Ground her for one month. She can go places with me, her horse instructor, and that's it. At any time for the next three to four years, we can check her mouth for a piercing, if she has one, she is grounded/no cell or internet for one week, if she refuses to let us see her tongue, same for two weeks.

So now, am I overreacting? Underreacting? And who knows about the length of time to heal? It would be interesting if you have an opinion to tell me your age group. I would imagine that the younger set will have a different opinion then other sets, but maybe I am wrong.

Sorry for the long post, but this is the first time she has blatantly disobeyed me and I am shocked. Yes I know she is a teenager.

Janelle

07-19-2007, 06:19 PM	#1
jvwheeler Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Virginia Posts: 261	Tongue Piercing-Advice Please Hi! I need advice. As many of you know I am wrapping up some time in Iraq and will return home next Wednesday (Yeah!). One month ago, prior to a trip to Florida to see some old friends and spend time with her father, my wonderful, intelligent, beautiful 15 year old daughter said "Mom, speaking of Florida, I would like to get something pierced." And I said "What?" Thinking the outside of her ear okay, eyebrow no, belly button maybe. She says "Tongue" and I said "ABSOLUTELY NOT, I FORBID IT" I did tell her that she is too young, it is too dangerous, and that I have spent $4K out of my pocket on braces and teeth. She is a spoiled child. She gets most everything she wants. We talk, and we usually have a great relationship. She knows she is spoiled and thus far hasn't taken advantage of it. WELL--she did it anyway. She doesn't know that I know, but she won't be able to hide it when we are on the same continent. I know that YT is a diverse group of people and many of you probably have some experience in this realm (I don't, the military completely frowns on it, and since it has only come in fashion since I have been in...) By reading on the Internet, it appears it takes 3 - 4 weeks for it to completely heal. Is this true? I was very, very angry when I first found out. I wanted to go home tear it out of her mouth and take away everything that is not part of the parental contract. No cell, no Internet, no riding lessons, tv--leave her with food, clothes and shelter. But I have calmed down a bit. Only a bit. So with this diverse group, tell me what you think. When I see it (which shouldn't take long), explain to her how disappointed I am that she went against my wishes. Allow her to leave the piercing in for one month from the date of inception, to allow it to heal. Then she can not wear a piercing until she is no longer living in my house. Take away cell and internet privileges for one month. Ground her for one month. She can go places with me, her horse instructor, and that's it. At any time for the next three to four years, we can check her mouth for a piercing, if she has one, she is grounded/no cell or internet for one week, if she refuses to let us see her tongue, same for two weeks. So now, am I overreacting? Underreacting? And who knows about the length of time to heal? It would be interesting if you have an opinion to tell me your age group. I would imagine that the younger set will have a different opinion then other sets, but maybe I am wrong. Sorry for the long post, but this is the first time she has blatantly disobeyed me and I am shocked. Yes I know she is a teenager. Janelle