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Originally Posted by GORJESS  Well I graduated as valedictorian of my high school so it is expected that I go to college. The problem is I really don't want to, as ironic as that may seem. But I really don't want to let my parents down, again. I feel like me getting pregnant was a big enough disappointment for them. I feel like going to college is just going to stress me out and like I can educate myself the way I have been doing. Then again, it seems like you need a degree for everything these days. If I go to college I will be majoring in business, and I just really think that I could do all of that on my own.
What I really want to do is just work right now and save up money. While working I will be reading books and basically educating myself in order to get a good job, and start on a career. I honestly think I can do it, but I just don't have it in me to let my parents down once more. Also, I feel like if I don't succeed school will always be there and I can go back. But I don't want to end up being a college drop out if I start now.
I'm just so confused and don't know what to do. What do you think? |
Ok I agree that you need to do it for you and your litlte one. Now your getting pregnant was not a disspointment to your parents. It is a blip on the radar as a parent we know our children are not perfect. I would suggest at most hon to take six months off of college and evaluate for sure where you want to go and what you want to be. I was a young mother myself (had my first two weeks before my 21st birthday) and I have to tell you the longer you take off it becomes harder to go back. Life and children have a way of demanding things and it is a lot of work to manage them all. I would suggest honestly if you are living at home still (not sure what your living situation is) and have the emotional support of your parents then take the semester off and then start up. Sometimes we just feel burned out and I am sure that is in part of what you are going through while trying to be a young mom and a student.
I do have to say that the job market expecially when it comes to professional areas like business look for that piece of paper. While it's unfair sometimes because a person may have the hands on that piece of paper will get you more money and open the door for you to climb that ladder. I work in the corporate world and I see how much harder it is for a woman to achieve all that we want while playing in the tank with the boys.
I personally need 18 credits to finish my bachelors and I have found myself still dragging to go back. I am fortunate that I work where I work and my boss values my part in our team and I get paid very well. Sometimes with a bit of luck and by the grace of god we will find our road in life. But if I were you knowing what I know about the job market I would definitely recommend taking a semester off to give yourself a break and then going to college. The time flies so fast and you will be done before you know it. That piece of paper can eventually mean that position that will pay you way more so you can take care of yourself and your baby. I have known people that have been turned down for a promotion because while they had hands on knowledge they didn't have the paper and the company refused to budge on it.
Good luck in your decision.