My husband and I have only been married for 9 years (or will be 9 on Aug 2) and we hit a rough patch about 6 years ago. We couldn't agree on anything it seemed. Quite by accident we found our own method of "counseling".
I had bought 1000 piece jigsaw puzzle and spent evenings putting it together alone. One of those evenings my husband joined me. This had been a few days after a nasty argument and we hadn't been talking much. What started out as just two people doing a puzzle, turned into meaningful conversation and getting to know eachother all over again. It didn't happen right away either. Those first couple nights of putting the puzzle together we didn't talk, but it is hard to not talk to someone when you are sitting at the table together every night.
It is now a once a month tradition. Once a month we either get out one of those old puzzles and put it together again or we splurge and buy a new puzzle.
I know you and your husband are apart right now, but may I suggest that when the two of you are together that you find something to do together that you both enjoy. It doesn't have to be something that costs money either. It could be as simple as putting a puzzle together or going fishing or sitting on the back porch sipping tea and just relaxing and talking.
I hope that whatever happens you find happiness and that you feel better.
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