Buddah<3r, I am facing a similar situation myself so I can understand your mixed emotions and certainly your feeling of guilt! I myself just got into grad school for a change of career (education to social work) and can't afford not to work even though I do have my husband's income to help out; but, we have a mortgage and lots of monthly bills. I will be working 20 hours, interning 16 hours and going to school full-time (5 classes) but my schedule will be a little more flexible in that I work and live in the same town and my internship is 30 minutes away tops...school is an hour away though. I will have weekends off unless I realize we can't swing the bills without getting another job (which will probably be true within the first two months!) I've been considering hiring a dog walker or sending Tucker to doggie day care for my exceptionally long days. Like others have said, fellow YTers will probably be more than willing to help through stopping by to check in on Buddah or fostering or some other great idea I haven't thought of!
I hope you can figure something out that will work for you and for Buddah. Good luck with everything. It's gonna be two years from hell but well worth it in the end (if we stay positive, we can get each other through it!
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