i really dont want to use the gates because the main reason im trying to train Princess to use the stairs is because i want her to try to always use the restroom outside, but im scared shes going to have an accident upstairs
which is all carpet (even the restroom!)
Even if you have her upstairs and use the gate until she can master the stairs you are still going to have to take her out to go potty. You don't let her go out by herself do you? So either way you will have to go with her.
I get up every night with Izzie to go out, sometimes twice. Not my favorite thing, but until she can make it through the night it's what I have to do.
Potty training is not for the weak at heart