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Originally Posted by bdbmamaw  Nodak -
My husband and I have 5 yorkies. 3 of which are totally attached to him. It use to be that they would just lay around with me when he wasn't home. But when hubby was in the house, I didn't exist and they became live wires!
Two of them are really attached to me and would lay around when I was gone. I attribute this to 'separation anxiety'.
So, I started spending more time on the floor with his babies and he did the same with mine. We would just get on the floor on their level and talk and try to get them to play with a favorite toy. We also started giving them some of their favorite treats so a connection could begin. This did take time, but now they can't seem to make up their mind who to run to first when we come in the door.
So hang in there and make sure you take Tanner places with just you, and get on his level. He won't respond much at first, but you should slowly start seeing some changes. And it will totally thrill you...
A mistake a lot of people make is thinking it's cute when their baby barks at you and when he shows favoritism to them instead of you. (It can be very flattering to be favored by one of these babys.) Make sure Heidi doesn't encourage this and make sure she doesn't 'take over' when she's home. Try playing with him and each other on the floor so that he sees mommy including daddy in playtime too. (Just don't get rough and scare him.) How Heidi interacts with you is very important.
Good luck... I know what you're going through and it will get better. Just give it some time and try not to take it personal. |
This is really good advice!!! When we got Jake, he was meant to be my dog. He is very much a mommy's boy and warmed up to me right away. I think this is because his breeder is a woman, and she has a daughter so he was very used to women, but not so much with men. It took him a little longer to warm up to my husband. He didn't seem to fear him, he seemed almost shy. But, my husband spent alot of time holding him, talking to him, and being affectionate with him...but, he took it slow because he didn't want to overwhelm Jake. He got down in the floor with him, and Jake was so happy! He would use his favorite toys to play with him and teach him, and he would give him treats. Next thing you know, Jake could fetch.....he learned it in about 10 min. He also took part in giving him fresh water, feeding him and bathing him. He even took a shower with him once.
Now, Jake is still a mommy's boy, but he loves playing with daddy. He's always so happy to see him when he comes home from work.
You just have to be patient and keep trying.