A few months ago, I started looking for a new partner in my counseling practice -- I wanted to rescue and train a therapy dog.
A number of mental health practitioners now escort gentle and friendly animals to convalescent homes and hospitals. These loving creatures bring a healing power to the infirm. I also know of several therapists who practice with their dogs to add a broader scope to their work. For someone in emotional distress who is unable to open up and let the pain out, being in the presence of a furry and unconditionally loving creature can be very helpful.
I was a bit hesitant about this adoption, knowing the pros and cons (like replacing the carpet and never again having matching slippers). But the pros won out. The dog could help my clients. I also like the idea of having someone to take walks with when no humans are available.
This little bundle of fluff has brought a new dimension of love into my life and into the lives of everyone she touches. I don't bring her to every session. For some people, it's not appropriate (like those who are allergic or canine-phobic), but I'd be hard-pressed to even think of being without her. Even my twelve-year-old cat has accepted the little Yorkshire terrorist.
When I tell Mercy that she's going to work, she gets very excited. When she gets together with someone she's familiar with, it's as if they have never been separated. She sits in their lap or at their feet, simply adding comfort where she can.
I recently met an elderly woman who was walking her little Yorkie and, as the doggies sniffed each other, she told me that instead of sending flowers after her husband died several years ago, her children all chipped in and got her a puppy, along with a cell phone. She was concerned at first, but having to care for the dog helped her heal and made her take walks, and now the dog is her constant companion. She says it saved her life.
The bond we share with animals is amazing. For some, it even replaces the need for human companionship. Think of the little old lady with a house full of cats or the bachelor with his faithful dog. Years ago, I heard about an aging couple who committed suicide together after the loss of their pet. A tragic decision; instead, they could have rescued an animal that would have rescued them right back.
In many ways, caring for an animal makes you more human. Doing it as a family teaches your children responsibility and helps everyone involved experience the circle of life.
So, if someone you care for wants to bring a sock-stealing poop machine into your world, give it some thought. Truth is, we can always replace shoes, but we never seem to have enough love in our lives.
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If you are interested in rescuing an animal you can call 1-800-SAVE-A-PET or go online to
www.1-800-save-a-pet.com.
Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., author of "Emotional Fitness for Couples" can be reached at
Barton@BartonGoldsmith.com. Distributed by Scripps Howard News Service,
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