Nodak -
My husband and I have 5 yorkies. 3 of which are totally attached to him. It use to be that they would just lay around with me when he wasn't home. But when hubby was in the house, I didn't exist and they became live wires!
Two of them are really attached to me and would lay around when I was gone. I attribute this to 'separation anxiety'.
So, I started spending more time on the floor with his babies and he did the same with mine. We would just get on the floor on their level and talk and try to get them to play with a favorite toy. We also started giving them some of their favorite treats so a connection could begin. This did take time, but now they can't seem to make up their mind who to run to first when we come in the door.
So hang in there and make sure you take Tanner places with just you, and get on his level. He won't respond much at first, but you should slowly start seeing some changes. And it will totally thrill you...
A mistake a lot of people make is thinking it's cute when their baby barks at you and when he shows favoritism to them instead of you. (It can be very flattering to be favored by one of these babys.) Make sure Heidi doesn't encourage this and make sure she doesn't 'take over' when she's home. Try playing with him and each other on the floor so that he sees mommy including daddy in playtime too. (Just don't get rough and scare him.) How Heidi interacts with you is very important.
Good luck... I know what you're going through and it will get better. Just give it some time and try not to take it personal. |