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Originally Posted by adahl  With my sister in law, what do you think I should say? She doesnt really listen to any one let alone me and I dont know what to say. I would just not take her over there but my hubby likes to and his parents love to see her. His parents look at me and know what I am having a melt down when they are playing and they tell her to sit still and just play on the ground but that only last like 90 seconds and she is back up again. I guess I am just going to have to be tougher and pick meeka up and say that since she did listen she cant play with her now. |
My daughters are now 11 and 13 and know how to handle Tatum but they also grew up with a toy poodle so learned at an early age how to handle little ones. Unfortunately, not all kids get taught that. I have two nephews that Tatum likes to play with BUT I often have to separate them from her because they get too rough. They have a lab at their house and are used to bigger dogs. You are just gonna have to get tough with your SIL. I know sometimes it seems silly to protest when someones wants to hold or pet your pup BUT if something were to happen that you could have easily prevented, you'll be kicking yourself. I just usually will take Tatum out of the situation and tell them that if they can't play gentle, sitting down, then Tatum can't play. It's really hard for kids that aren't used to small dogs to remember that...... that's why you have to have an eye on those that you don't trust completely.
As for strangers holding and petting, I don't usually let strangers hold Tatum unless she is on her leash and I can stay attached to her at all times but that's not to say that I let just anyone handle her either. I'm guilty of wanting to hold and cuddle other people's cute dogs too but have to tell myself that not everyone wants me to (I just couldn't resist those Yorkies this past weekend at our meetup though!!). Again, your discretion. Don't feel bad about your decision.
And yes, I've heard it said before..... if a total stranger comes up and wants to hold or pet your pup, just say "she/he's been known to bite". What do you care what they think. It's a good excuse.