Thanks for all the support
we have kept the two of them totally away from each other, i have removed her scent from the house where he is staying, and hes finally calmed down and back to being himself. I still have to leash walk him because he runs back to the other house where daisy is, but other than that hes over the howling. My wife and i haven't seen each other in a few days which sucks, but all in all were actually sleeping and the dogs seem happy. so life is better than the alternative... This has definitely been a learning experience for us.