[jp4m2]

I personally don't post in "certain" threads because I can tell from the O.P.'s "?" that it may get ugly...I like the different responses the poster gets from people who have "been there-done that"...it's great that there is this varied wealth of knowledge available on here....I like the fact that there is no "cookie cutter" answers at times...every one has their own value system & their own comfort level... what works for one won't work for another...it's for that very reason that some of these threads get heated, how ironic is that...sometimes in a post the tone sounds accusatory, that just sets up the defenses & nothing productive is accomplished... too bad for that...I don't have a problem w/ a poster asking something that deviates from the original "?", if it's an important point & is asked w/ out the attitude.....Assumptions are another large reason for nasty threads, a "?" should be asked first if there's some concern about an issue, it might avoid some unnecessary hurt feeling & anger.....