ok...sounds EXACTLY like what me and my hubby went through. he kept saying "what if rex or daisy hurts her...she will be so little...anything could happen. What if we step on her?? It will be such a big responsibility...training, etc." Well, I explained to him that it wouldn't be any more of an inconvenience (traveling and stuff) than it is with our 2 dogs we already have. I told him that I have no problems being the one to do the training...as I think I am much better at it than he is. And I told him that I was not worried about us or the dogs hurting her...they have never hurt anything in their entire lives and we are responsible adults and are able to look where we are walking. He started talking about wanting kids and I went on to say that a child would be a LOT more "responsibility" than a puppy would be and that we could just as easily step on a baby crawling around. Or one of the dogs could just as easily hurt the baby. He realized that his excuses were "no good" and that he just needed to trust that I knew what I was getting into. He finally came around and we couldn't be happier that we added maggie to our family. In fact, he has mentioned wanting to get another one LOL
this time, I am the one saying no LOL I told him we can get another one when we get a bigger house LOL (that would be 4 dogs in the house!)
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Originally Posted by mh357  Hi everyone,
Thank you so much for all your replies and comments. I really appreciated them...and I feel better knowing that I'm not the only one who is crazy for my dogs and thinks they're my babies!!! I can tell all of you feel the same way about your little furkids. I just sat down with my boyfriend and we had a serious talk about it, and he said that he'd try to be more accepting of a tiny dog. He's concerned that it's going to bark all the time and be annoying, and he's never had something so small so he's afraid of the vet bills costing more for a tiny dog and what if it gets stepped on, etc. So I think he's concerned about money for the dog but also it's wellbeing, if he's concerned that it could hurt itself. I told him that I really didn't think she'd hurt herself unless I got a little 1 or 2 pound baby and I was really really clumsy (or drunk, and I've never been drunk in my life so I don't think that's a problem). He just wants to concentrate on our own lives together now, and he wants his own dog soon, which I think is fair because we'll have two then. I think maybe he's jealous that I would have 2 and he'd only have his one. Then there's the issue of when we'd have kids and stuff like that (if we do). He did apologize to me for getting all crazy at me and said it was just because he doesn't understand how this dog passion is for me. His passion is cars and car stuff, but he justifies that as a one-time expense, and dogs are an on-going expense. Something like that. We ended it on him saying that when I think I'm ready (which wasn't going to be till a year from now) we'll both talk about it, and he promised he'd be open to the idea as long as we seemed to be in a comfortable spot in our lives that allowed for a new baby (house, location, jobs, etc.). So we'll see. I'm just glad he said he's sorry for blowing up at me, and that he said he'd consider it. He really is this macho guy and maybe he thinks tiny dogs are a sign of 'weakness' for big guys... who knows, it's like he has PMS or something. I'm just glad we're on a good note and it seems like he's willing to work with me on this one. Now if I said I wanted two...FORGET IT!! LOL!!
So thank you everyone. I'm so glad it's not just me that loves their furbabies this much. I love this forum because everyone seems to love their dogs so much, and that's just how I am. Thank you!!! |