my opinions on relationship counseling.....
every good car runs better with an occasional tune-up.
there is NOTHING wrong with couseling.
I am not going to pretend to know anything about your relationship but if there are passions in your life that he does not support, you really will do much better with a counselor to talk to about it. I agree with the others that have said that a marriage should be a compromise. And I agree that you should not bring a dog into a home unless you are really ready for it. Does he like dogs at all? or does he just not like small dogs? because if he does like some dogs...then he will love your yorkie. If he isn't a dog person at all, it will be very hard to bring a dog into the home and not have issues. the first time he/she pee's on the floor "see...this dog is going to ruin our home". and you will start to resent him for his comments. and the dog will sense every last bit of it.
only you know your relationship and wether or not bringing a dog into the home will work. but if he is a dog person but not a "yorkie" person...he will get over it
I have never like cockers but now I have a 6 year old cocker that I would lay down my life for.... it is possible to fall in love with a breed of dog that you never thought you would want.
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Originally Posted by judyeve  You love him and you share a life together, including plans to get married, so I can understand your not wanting to think about ending it. I would give the relationship some serious thought though. He may be wonderful in many ways, but still be controlling. Couple's counseling might be the thing to do so that you can straighten out any big issues before you get married. He may not want to go, but as someone who has been divorced twice, I would say that you have to put love aside for a while and make sure this marriage will work. You really don't want to have children and then split up. If he won't go to counseling, maybe you can go yourself. There's no reason a beautiful young woman should feel ashamed because someone else is making some of her decisions.
You can probably work it out with him, but a good marriage takes enormous effort. Don't ever love is enough to carry you through. Fight for your relationship to work - and not with him.
Good luck. I'm sure you'll be able to straighten this out.
Judy  |