I haven't read any of the other replies but I wanted to chime in.
first of all....I can't stand that you feel like you have to have "permission" to buy ANYTHING. second...what happens when he has his heart set on something...does he have to ask for permission? do you have a say so in what he gets?????
I wanted a yorkie for many years and when I met my husband he had a dog and I already had a dog and he just REFUSED to get a 3rd dog. well, me in my independent nature just simply told him that I will not be asking for his permission to fulfill my dreams in life, and that my marriage will not be like that. So he can either agree to the yorkie and learn to like it, or we would have bigger issues. because I would NEVER tell him that he could not have something that meant so much to him. never. he wants things that I don't care for but I wouldn't dare keep him from having things that truly make him happy. Well, I dropped the subject for a while because I knew we were going to be doing some traveling late last year and thought it would be best to wait until the first of the year. Then he asked for a Christmas wish list and a yorkie was #1 on the list. Guess what I got...
yep...my maggie. and guess who Maggie has WRAPPED around her paw. Yes...my hubby. He adores her. ADORES her. he never thought he could get attached to her like he has. he melts over her.
I guess I don't really know what I am trying to say other than I don't think in a marriage it is fair to control what passions one person might have and might persue. especially if he has indicated in the past that he is ok with bringing a yorkie into the family. and now suddenly when he see's you buying things for her, he nixes the idea. I'm sorry, but if you are anything like me...animals are my passion. especially dogs. and if that is how you are, you will NOT be happy until you are able to live those passions out.
I have to say also that his comment about "little rats" is insane. I have always had Great Danes. I have always thought "if you are going to have a dog, get a DOG". but i was sooo wrong. these little guys have more life and more spirit than any dog I have ever been around. They are the most loyal, passionate, faithful, protective, loving animals I have ever been around. Trust me....he will love your yorkie. they really do have a way of coming in and taking over your entire world. He will love it!!!!!!!
hope I have not stepped on any toes...i will go read the rest of the thread now to make sure I am not out of line
good luck hun!!!!