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Originally Posted by sashajade  not all kids who get what they want grow up brats.
i cant remember a time that i went without growing up, i never said i want that or this but if i said i liked something my mum and my nan would buy me it, i was never rude, never naughty, never needed telling off, always said please and thankyou.
i didnt talk to my mum rudely cos we got on very well she was my best friend and i respected her, the reason i was well behaved wasnt cos if i wasnt i would of got a smack across the legs or a back hander.
hitting doesnt earn respect it earns fear, i would rather my kids didnt do things cos they respect me not fear me.
if a man said i hit my wife when she does things that get me mad or i hit her when she disrespects me people would say hes wrong but if a fully grown person hits a child its ok  i dont agree with smacking and i worked at a nursery with 13 under twos all in the same room with just me and 2 other people to look after them all and smacking was not allowed so you learn how else you can deal with it, but if i had my own kids i couldnt say that i would never smack them as i just dont know but id like to say i would try not to.  |
We were raised in a different time. yes I believe that respect can be taught without smacking, but the lessons have to start the very first time a child screams at you or hits you because they didn't get what they wanted.
I've seen small children hitting and kicking their parents. And the parent is saying "Please don't kick me" and the kid kicks them again. As a parent of young children, You HAVE TO DEMAND respect. A small child is not going to just respect you. If they have not learned respect by the age of 7, forget it.