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Originally Posted by JeanieK  Oprah had a shnow on not too long ago, and to me it really explained a lot.
The fguy said, that spoiled children grow ujp to be unhappy adults. Thatd the more their parents give to them, the more they demand, and the pleasure, that they get from it, is very short lived.
He said they never learn how to make themselves feel good. they never learn the good feeling that you get from a job well done, or by doing something nice for others. All of their pleasure comes from external things, and it is like a drug, the longer you take it the less pleasure you get from it.
Therefore when they become adults, they believe their happiness depends on what others do for them. so they scream and demand, but everyone just walks away and they become very unhappy people.
This describes her to a T |
That is so true! I try to convince my children of that, that I am saving them from a life of unhappiness by not giving in to their every little whim. LOL. Some day they will thank me.
Others think I am so terrible because I usually try to make my kids do something to get extra spending money, etc. instead of being a free ATM. Unfortunately most of the kids my daughter has for friends have parents just like that. They are all extremely spoiled. Last night my 13 year old daughter came in to my bedroom late to talk to me, and she had just spent the night with a friend. She was crying and saying how her friend treated her parents and that she didn't want to be like that. I was so grateful that she could see the difference. This was totally on her own, with no coaching from me. She apologized for how she has treated me sometimes and said she was really trying. It was a very precious moment.