help, i'm so sad-I have a 2yr old female and a new puppy 5mo's old-we've had her since dec. she is very dominant and very headstrong-she is the EXACT opposite of my other dog, submssive, laid back and princess-like.
my older dog is very sad about the new dog, she harasses her all the time, biting, fighting, barking taking toys away, pooping and peeing on the toys and pushing her away from the water dish etc... she even has little scabs on her head from the puppy teeth lol. everyone says give it time, and i'm wondering now, how much time. the pup has been in pup school training since december b/c of her agressiveness at first... and is doing well there. but when we get home, she is just so rough. my other dog is just like a 20 year old dog sometimes, doesnt want to play or anything. when i separate them, she just sits there and stares sadly when i'm w/the puppy and when i'm w/her the puppy makes me feel guilty b/c she's whining to play. they have NEVER cuddled, the only time they appear to like each other is when the toys are out and they are trying to get the toy from the other-it turns into a fight, so i put the toys away (poor 2 year old has been deprived of her toys for almost 2 mo's now). I am just frustrated, b/c I can't win. Is it possible to re-socialize the older dog and also to decomission the younger dog's strongheadedness? -I have the absolute worst mix of personaities, and I had no clue when I got the puppy b/c she wasnt like this w/her litter mates, which makes me think my older dog is 'asking for it'-and i tried just letting them be and staying out of it but that is a nightmare too-
I almost want to just say i give up and place an ad in the paper, for the baby and get her off to a home where she can be free and loved w/o fighting for attentiion and always pacing around trying to see what the other dog is doing-she gets so nervous about the other dog, what she's doing, where she is, etc-I just feel like i'm taking away from the puppy or the older dog
any ideas or suggestions? I have invested a LOT of time and MONEY into this alrady and I just dont know what to do now. I took a life into my hands and I'm torn on one side, I wnt to be responsible and keep trying on the other hand, I dont want to end up making my other dog even more submissive and allowing the puppy to become overly dominant (if that's even possible) to where she can't get along with other dogs......