I am at my wits end!!!!!
 

I am at my wits end!!!!! I am at the point I never thought I would get at with Lilly Anne. I am having to decide whether or not to keep her. She is an absolute nightmare to have in your house, she pees on everything and everywhere, she poops on everything and everywhere, and she tears everything up and rips everything she can get her hands on. I have taken her to the vet multiple times to check and makes sure that her pooping and peeing anywhere from 5-10 times a day is normal and she is completely healthy. I have spent so much money on all types of training and it has done no good. I literally have no idea what else to do. She currently has to stay in a small room by herself with nothing i it but some water till I get home in the afternoons because anything and everything you leave in there will be destroyed. I have spent so much time trying to potty train her and it has done no good either. it is seriously awful. Me and my husband just got married, and we are now preparing to move into our brand new house and I cannot handle having everything we have spent hard earned money on destroyed because of her, and my husband said the first time she ruins things in this new house she will be gone. I never had any of these issues with Ellie and I am at a serious loss of what to do. Any help or suggestions or anything would be very much appreciated!!

I wish I had suggestions beyond what you've probably already read on YT and tried. Potty training has been slow-going for my two, as well. I don't get as frustrated, though, because the carpets were due to be replaced anyway, so I'll just wait it out...And I'm home a lot so I can tend to the pups frequently.
I hope you get some good suggestions. (And that, if she needs to be re-homed, you'll be very selective. Heck, I'm in VA and would still take her if you were in a real bind, but I'm sure something will work out.)
Hoping for your sake and hers that things improve quickly.

Awww I'm sorry to hear this! I know how you're feeling my hubby and I have been having talks on whether to rehome our bulldog. She's ruined furniture, outside gates(when trying to get to us on the playground behind out house), "play" nips at our son, barks incessantly,whines, hubby convienantly forgets to bathe her weekly, feed her, pick up her poop, etc. She's a family dog but his one "responsibility" when he's home. It's just a bunch of stress at this point especially since I'm taking care of everything by myself. Would you consider professional training if u haven't done so already? Btw congrats on your nuptials!!!!!

I have paid so much money on professional training it is ridiculous! I can't believe how much a 5 pound dog can ruin things! I am about at my breaking point!

:hug: I think alot of people on here have been at a breaking point with their pet at one time or another. Sometimes when our bulldog does something all I can think of is sending her to my parents. Then a couple of days later I wonder how I could of had such thoughts. You will have to come to a decision sooner or later especially with having to move in your new home soon. Is it better for you, your husband, Lilly Anne , and Ellie for y'all to keep Lilly? Is it less stressful for everyone? The last thing you want to do as a newlywed is argue ;). If not find a good home for her. Not every dog is appropriate for every home.

How old is she? When Joel was younger I would keep him in a playpen so he couldn't ruin stuff and only had him out if I was right there watching him.

She is about a year and a half. She does stay in a playpen with nothing in it and is only out whenever i can be right up under her, but even still then she manages to poop or pee or tear something up. Like i said she uses the bathroom close to ten times a day if not more.

I know me and my husband really do love her to death and I can't imagine not having her, but after everything we have gone through we are almost at that point where it seems like maybe we just aren't the best fit for her or something. My husband gets so aggravated when he comes home from work and has to deal with something she has messed up every single day. It really is stressful for both of us.

Have you tried kennel training her? I would get her a larger kennel, with her bed and water on one end with a potty pad on the other end. It sounds like she really needs to be limited and you have to keep an eye on her. Start there, and let her out frequently. I'm guessing you will see immediate improvement.

I was just going to suggest the exact sand thing. She needs to be crate trained and only allowed access when you can keep both your eyes on her at all times.

Do you both work during the day? Is she feeling left out of things because you both work? Do you take her for good walks outside before work, after work and right before bedtime? Maybe if you can get her on scheduled wals r potty it ill help a lot. It's totally normal for them to potty that much, as the have very small bladders and intestines. I know Gizmo goes a lot, but if he gets his normal walks every day and is on his routine, most of the time he won't even use his potty pads, and I'll hold it for his walks. Best thing is to be consistent th walks and make sure she's getting enough excersize. Gizmo is only nine months old, but depends on his schedule, and if its off, he tends to get into more trouble. I think consistency is the main thing to focus on.

I remembered this from the training forum. How to Housetrain You Dog in 7 Days. LTAH.NET

I just checked the link and you need to look on the right side of the website under potty training to see the PDF file.

You just really need to follow thru with your end and she will be trained. It's when you become complacent they fall back into bad habits. Good luck :)

He works and I am in college. But yes they re very scheduled. He takes them on walks before he leaves and then when I get up they go on another walk. When I get home the get walks again and usually play in the yard for a while and then they get walks right before bedtime. They are fed at the same time everyday and nothing changes . I am very consistent .

We did try kennel training and even bought both a large and small one for her to see which one she may like better. After two trips to the vet for her slamming herself against it and one time bruising her paw and another time cutting her leg on the gate, our vet suggested to not even put her in the kennel anymore because he was worried it would cause even more damage to her not only physically but mentally. Like I said previously we spend a lot of time taking them for walks and letting them out and I keep an eye out on her at all times, but she is still very difficult to manage. My husband has even been holding her and had her to pee and poop on him

Have you considered sending her away to a training place?

My neighbor ended up doing that with her dog, she works a lot and was having a lot of trouble training him. I also met a woman at a pet store who sent her dog. Both were thrilled with the results. I think it was like $2,000 though.

Oh my gosh! I've never heard of a pet doing this! It seems like she just doesn't like the crate or being confined. Have you tried an xpen with the same results? So at this time you keep her in a room so she doesn't cause harm to herself? Has she hurt herself/caused damage in the room y'all put her in. She pooped and peed on ur hubby? :eek: that would not go over well at our home. Had you recently taken her to the restroom? Do you think it could have been submissive urination....idk about the pooping though.

It is great the book How to Housebreak Your Dog in 7 Days" is very helpful. They are not as easy to housebreak. This is what I used for Galen. It worked pretty good

Wow! I can feel your frustration. Do you have two dogs? You mentioned your husband taking "them" for a walk. This little girl sounds really out of control and maybe should be re homed to someone who knows how to deal with this type of problem.

What are you feeding her? It is not normal for a dog her age to be pooping that much. Are her stools soft or firm? How many hours a day is she spending her playpen?

She is only in her big playpen for four to five hours at the most and that is not everyday. I do have another one and right now they are in separate pens because I wanted to make sure I knew it was her doing all the damage and messing things up and it is. Her stools are normal I even had that checked by the vet. They eat Fromm dog food.

She stays in a really big exercise pen in the extra room right now. If you leave her by herself where she can get to the walls she tears holes in the wall. And yes my hubby was very upset especially since she had just come from being on a walk outside! I don't believe it is submissive urination but I am not sure. She does it all the time!

She does not seem to be a happy camper at your house...she might act totally different with someone else or maybe being an only one, I am so sorry that she is not working out for you, I had to rehome one a few years back because she did not like the other dogs, now she is the one and only and happy as can be

There is just something not right about her behaviors. If she can't stay in a crate then you need to tether her to your side to keep a close eye on her. She should not be voluntarily pooping and peeing while being held. :confused: Are you free feeding her? Normally a dog will poop shortly after being fed. So if she's getting 2 meals per day you should expect her to poop 2 times. When she's out for her walk does she do her business or is it play time? If your husband takes her out it should be for the sole purpose of elimination. If she doesn't do what she's there for then she needs to be kept right at your side and if any sights of going needs to be taken immediately back out. It sounds like she might have some anxiety issues as well. Have you tried using a Thundershirt or Thundercap.

Thundershirt | The Best Dog Anxiety Treatment

What about using an anti anxiety med. was that suggested by your vet?
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I was wondering about the possibility of medication too. Check out the following links for information about Prozac and other drugs for dogs with anxiety, obsessive/compulsive disorder, or destructive tendencies:

Does Your Pet Need Prozac? - PawNation

Behavioral Medications for Dogs | ASPCA

Hi. I have some questions: Are you both always mad at her, most of the time? Do you both talk sternly (or worse) to her to try to correct her? When was the last time she heard the words 'Good Girl' and does she know what they mean? You don't have to answer, but if this is the case, you have to forgive her.

Get any and all bad thoughts out of your heads when dealing with her. Ignore her if she does wrong, including no bad thoughts towards her. Find something that she does right and start there, and praise her, treat her, pet her. Every night hold her and tell her she was a Good girl and that you love her, and tomorrow is another day.
Yorkies are extremely sensitive to our thoughts and feelings towards them. You have to think in your heads and your hearts that you love this dog so she will feel it and believe you. Even if she's been bad all day, make up something for your nightly talk/cuddle time that you can praise her for. Like You're a good girl... we still have a roof! Laugh and praise her.

I know this sounds crazy, so what. Try it. You should start to see a change in 2-3 days.

Remember: It's not her you're upset with, it's only her behavior you don't like.

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Great link.....I've used the Thundershirts with great success for anxiety. The Anxitane was helpful but I found the best combination for Bogeys thunder fears was the combo of Benadryl/Thundershirt. Separation anxiety is very real in animals which I think sometimes owners fail to realize. Truthfully, this is what I suspect is happening here.

The OPer addressed this idea already. The pup has injured herself while being crated so this option needs to be addressed after what myself and another member suspect might be anxiety. :(

Yes it could be anxiety, and after all the OP has tried, this was one of my thoughts.

I have never had a dog poop on me when being held. A soft sided play pen might be a good idea, along with one of those very very hard to break nylabones for chewing.

I think this is a \'lack of bonding\' issue. Yorkies love attention, and will accept good or bad. She\'s gotten in the habit of getting bad attention, and is most likely in panic mode bc at the same time, she wants to avoid the bad attention and at heart wants to be a good dog, but doesn\'t have a clue how to do that.

Cover your clothes with a peepad or a blanket and put her on your lap and remain calm, no matter what she does. All the pooing and peeing is her nerves. Calm and sooth her with your voice. Smile a lot, as it\'s harder to think and say bad things if you\'re smiling. Lap time can be short, but make it last longer each time.

You have to reward the good, ignore the bad. Seriously, can it get any worse?