[Tophersmom]

(((((((Bama Yorkie Mom))))))
I'm in tears thinking of how very difficult those dreams must be for you.

In my earlier post I talked about what happened to me at my fiance, Ross's wake. I've had many 'dreams' where he's either stood at the foot of my bed and talked to me, or sat on the side of the bed and talked to me. When I wake...(or was I asleep?) I am so devastated because it was so real. More real than what just our memories allow. In those dreams there is touch, smell. Things which we don't remember on a day to day basis, but they are locked in our minds, somewhere, forever. It's been 23 years since he died and those dreams are very few and far between now. I haven't had one in a long time. I hope he's at peace.

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My fiance was very close to my best friend, Mary Lou and her husband. The four of us did everything together all those years ago. This couple now lives in a city far from me but we are still close and talk on the phone often.

A few years ago, Mary Lou had a friend of her son's staying at the house for a couple of months. His name is Dan. Dan went up to Mary Lou one day and said 'I don't know if you're going to believe me or not, but every once and a while I see a guy standing on your stairs...he's looking at you guys and smiling. He's not scary...he looks really friendly. I thought I was going crazy but I've seen him more than once.' Dan was very upset 'cause he didn't think Mary Lou would believe him.

MaryLou, asked him to describe the guy he saw on the stairs. He described my fiance to a 'T'. He even described a small dimple he got on one cheek when he smiled. She immediately hauled out some photos and asked if he could point out the guy in any of the pictures. He pointed out my fiance from a group of people and shouted 'that's him!!!'

Mary Lou explained to Dan what had happened to Ross and how dear a friend he was to them. She wasn't surprised at all to hear that he was watching over them. Though Dan was a bit freaked at the whole idea of seeing a 'ghost' (for lack of a better term), he was relieved that Mary Lou believed him and that he wasn't going crazy!!

I was glad I wasn't the only one that felt his presence.