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Originally Posted by Kimchi and Kitt  I feel compelled to answer both of these. First Deuce-im not sure how much you know about the current military situation but after their divorce is final he wont be paying her ANYTHING. Not a dime. Until then, after she is home she will be covered by the army's insurance and while she is living with her family he will not be paying her any type of Basic housing allowance. If she moves into her own place she will receive money for housing, which does NOT come out of his pay check.
I meddled in her life because the previous night he choked her out and told her he could kill her if thats what he wanted, along with hitting her in the face. Im sorry if you cannot agree but it was my responsibility as a friend to look out for he well being. I do not want to receive a text that something a lot more horrible than that happened. My husband is his superior and therefore I told him. That "soldier" is unfit for duty. Have you heard about the crime rate happening in Korea with the army personal? Probably not... there is a lot of crimes against women happening right now by our soldiers, and thats not ok. I also come from a professional standpoint where I am a nurse, and if I know that abuse is taking place i have a duty to report that... ITS NOT MEDDLING. It sickens me that you could imply that I should stand by and let that happen.
And if his Unit thinks he is a wife beater than so be it, thats what he did. Im sorry you think his actions were appropriate.
To the next post, I agree she should have taken the pup with her when she left, im sure at the time she was scared and just wanted to remove herself from the situation as fast as possible.
to everyone else, thank you so much for your input and kind words. |
I just wanted to commend you and thank you for making a difference. Too many times people choose not to get involved fearing that to do so will jeopardize themselves or aggravate an all ready escalating situation. Sadly by not getting involved great harm usually happens to the victim. The husband is not the victim but the perpetrator of the violence and must be held accountable for his actions. If it effects his career it is because of his actions and he must pay the price, not his wife or the dog. Just like what is happening at Penn State people were aware abuse was happening but it continues until some one stands up and makes sure something is done. I wish your friend and her dog all the best in their new life. Thank you to you and your husband for doing the right thing.